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Should I take my brother up on his offer?
Let me give you the background to my question first: Me and my brother we’re raised by a single mother who often had to work two jobs, and leave us with baby sitters. Our father divorced our mother, when I was barely 2 and my brother was 4. He (our father) was not an active part of our lives when we we’re growing up,and he is still not welcome in our lives, because of what he did to my brother and me as children (my father physically abused me and my brother when we would go visit him). Me and my brother struggled to have a "normal" childhood with an often absent mother, and a non-existent father. We are both well adjusted adults now, and love our children more then we can describe.

Yesterday, I got an email from my brother, and this is what it said (I copied and pasted it here).

"Hey Sis, how are you doing? We’re all doing well here. Not much snow, but I’m thankful for that. The reason why I’m writing you this message at 2 a.m. in the morning, is because we have been thinking about you and the kids a lot lately. I see how you struggle working two jobs, raising 3 children, and going to school full-time. We both know what it’s like to be raised by a single mom, who really wasn’t around much when we we’re kids. I know living with mom and grandma is tough, and they are critical of how you raise your children. This really upsets you quite a bit. But me and the wife have been thinking very hard about your situation, and we would like to propose an idea to you.

Since great-grandma died and left us those 8 pieces of property, they have been sitting empty for the better part of a year. I’ve sold all 4 of my properties, and now I’m waiting for them to close. This should happen in the next 60 days give or take. I know you have sold 3 of your 4 properties, and you still have the family ranch in Texas, that Mr. Rawlins is leasing from you at the moment. This is where my offer comes in. I don’t want you to raise the kids without a father in their life. I want to do what Uncle Bill did for me and you, and be the father that your children need. I want to have an active part in their life.

This is what we have thought about doing: Sher has 1 one more of RN school left, and I have 14 months left in Culinary School. I think it would be beneficial if we moved onto the family ranch in Texas. You can go to school full-time, and not have to worry about the kids being raised by a baby sitter, and you wouldn’t have to work 2 jobs. The only thing I want you to do is concentrate on college, and graduating. This would mean a great deal to us and the kids. We’re tired of living here in the city. The kids need space and room to roam. I would help you do whatever you needed on the ranch no questions asked. What do you think sis? Could you see yourself, the kids and us living together, and being a happy family? Aside from mom and gram, we have no one else in the world. We’ve talked for years about raising our families together, let’s do it then. Let’s make it happen.

Let me know what you think. I love you very much. I know I don’t often say it enough, but I do love you little sister.

Love, Brant"

So what do you think those of you out there: Should I take my brother up on his offer? Please no rude answers, thank you.

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This could be a great thing but you and he need to put some rules on paper.
Look into this and decide for yourself
bopdaddy | Feb 06, 2010

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I thought u was guna say sumut bout anal sex at first. lmao
Richey | Feb 06, 2010

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sounds like an easy fix to a situation……….
sounds like a a lousy plan…….
your brother wants to play Daddy to your kids……
so he’s going to be the man of the house……
and his wife is going to have a say over things…..
and you are going to be the weak little sister with three kids…..
and your brothers wife as well as him will have a say in how the kids are raised…
and a say in what you do with your life…..and how you do anything….
and all is going to be well….NOPE……NOT EVEN CLOSE….

tell brother that you are aware of the criticism from Mom but add there is a lot of good,
further add that this is stability and a separation would result in hard feelings……
(none of this has to be true)\
tell him that after school you more than likely will relocate,and that uprooting the kids
for a temporary situation is not in their best interest…….then thank him and close the door….
sounds like this is a bad deal for you and you’ll get screwed in the end…
HOW LIFE WORKS | Feb 06, 2010